4 Keys To A Better Marriage

These tips will make your marriage life successful.

0
9

Marriage is a wonderful blessing, but it can be very difficult at times. In this article, Sahmpower hopes to address four areas of a marriage that can start you well on your way to a happier, healthier relationship with your spouse.

1. Communication:

calling-1842212_960_720

It is no big secret to most people that communication is the number one issue in a marriage. In the typical marriage, it is misunderstanding each other that causes most of the problem rather than an actual issue. Often we make assumptions of what our partner wants or thinks that is way off base, but we base our response or emotions on this assumption. For women, we might assume that our husband’s seeming disinterest means cheating, when it may just be that he is overworked and stressed out. For men, they may assume their wife’s nagging means that they are not performing well as a husband, when all she really wants is him to take out the trash. We wives often expect our husbands to know what we want, and husbands often avoid making requests of their spouse or bringing up an issue because they want to avoid conflict at all costs. It may seem really simplistic to say, but if you want something from your partner, tell them! And be willing to listen if you want to be heard. Wives might be surprised how a husband will respond if he knows what she wants.

Conversely, a husband may be surprised how quickly a wife will be to meet his requests if he is open enough to tell her. One big mistake couples make is holding things in and not resolving the little issues until they have built up. This causes an unnecessary blowup that could have been avoided if deal with when the problem was small. And finally, let go of your resentment. If you are holding a grudge against your spouse, your are giving a destructive seed in your marriage. You must accept your personal responsibility in the choices that you and your partner have made together. If you have chosen to forgive a past wrong, then do so. If you chose marriage rather than living out your dream, recognize that it was your choice too, so do not resent your spouse for it. Where resentment will kill your marriage, forgiveness is the anecdote that will heal it.

2. Make Your Marriage a Top Priority:

wedding-322034__340

We are busy people with a lot of responsibilities. We have work, kids, chores, bills, appointments, practices, and more to take up our time. But where does our marriage fit in? It is so easy to get cooked up in the rat race and neglect our marriage, but there are major repercussions for doing so. The marriage is the nucleus of the family, and is like an anchor that holds the home and it’s surroundings steady. Many parents tend to put their kids before their marriage more often than not. It takes a concerted effort from each partner to place the marriage relationship as a priority in family life. Children benefit greatly from a strong relationship between their parents. We model to them what marriage is and what it should be like. If the marriage relationship is not given the effort and attention required, life and time can erode it until the husband and wife are left with nothing to build or grow on.

3. Revive Your Love Life:

beach-193786__340

For women, a hectic day with the kids is enough to stifle any interest in a love life. For men, the same can be said for their harried work week. But even if you are tired, give effort to facilitate regular love making in your marriage. You will most likely find that although you did not feel like it before, you will certainly reap the rewards for your efforts. Rejecting your partner can cause great damage to your marriage, so give a little and get a lot in return. Make an effort to insure regular lovemaking in your marriage, even if you have to schedule it. Not only will both of you be more satisfied in your love life, but your relationship will be much closer too!

4. Share:

couple-2158306__340

I’ve heard this statement many times, “He has his money, and I have mine.” But secret keeping and separate banking accounts do not have a place in good marriages. If you had siblings when you were younger, one of the hardest courses you had to learn was “sharing”. When you become married, you are making a choice to share your life with your spouse. Your life includes all that you are and all that you have. The Bible says in Matthew 6:21, “Where your treasure is, there your heart is also” No matter what you believe, this truth applies very much to many areas of marriage. Money is one of the major issues that couples answer about, and the reason is that many people place it as a higher priority than almost anything else. Although tough financial times can be taxing on any marriage, they will never break a marriage that has priority with both husband and wife. If you treasure your marriage, your whole heart will be in it.

Source by Sarah Cowart