Once a marriage starts unraveling many couples feel there’s little they can do but wait for the inevitable. Just because your marriage isn’t as rosy or as fulfilling as it once was, you don’t have to wait for the day when your wife says she’s ready to divorce you. You’re not the type of man who gives up so easily, are you? If you love your wife but you feel that she’s fallen out of love with you, don’t sit idly by and wait for her to walk out. You can change this. You have the power to remedy your marriage by following some insightful advice and taking a few simple steps towards change.
There are several ways to make your wife love you again including:
Listen to her more acutely. You obviously talk to your wife on a daily basis, but do you two ever really talk in depth about your marriage or your mutual feelings for one another? Women need to communicate what they feel with their husbands if the marriage has any chance of surviving. Listen to your wife when she says she has something she wants to talk to you about. Don’t brush her off or tell her that whatever she’s feeling will pass. This is vitally important to her and therefore it’s incredibly important for you to listen. Never again tell her that it’s not a good time or you don’t know how to change things. Just listening is a huge step in the right direction.
Share more of what you feel. The one thing that most married women crave is a glimpse into the mind of their husband. Your wife doesn’t know what you feel at any given moment unless you share it with her. She wants to know when you feel despair over something that has occurred at work and she wants to share in the joy you feel about your personal or professional accomplishments. Talk to her more about what’s going on in your mind and in your heart. If you feel unsatisfied, tell her instead of keeping it inside. The more you share, the closer she’ll feel to you.
Treat her like you used to. Remember back when you were trying to get your wife to fall desperately in love with you? You’d do whatever it took to get her to notice you and realize what a perfect partner you could be to her. If you’re like most married men you just don’t put in the effort you used to in order to show her how much she means to you. That can change beginning today. There’s no need to break the budget by buying her expensive gifts or whisking her away to tropical destinations. You simply need to tell her more how much you love her and show her too. Work on crafting a love note for your wife or arrange to prepare dinner one night this week. Anything like that shows her that you want her to be happy and fulfilled.
Be the husband she needs you to be. That’s a bit of a blanket statement but the meaning is valuable. Your wife needs specific things from you. It may be that she needs to hear you say you love her more often or perhaps she needs to feel you crave her physically. Maybe your wife is seeking support for her own career endeavors or she wants to know that you believe she’s the most amazing mom to your children. By giving your wife what she wants and needs to find fulfillment in your relationship you’ll be pulling her closer to you again.
Making your wife love you again obviously takes some effort and patience but it’s more than possible. If your marriage is important to you, start changing it today so your wife will fall back in love with you all over again.