We all have so much on our plates, and often there is little if anything on it for ourselves. In times of stress or overwhelm our own desires are often the first ones to go. All day long we think about that walk in the park after work, and then something comes up we immediately give up that walk in the park to satisfy someone else’s priority or to just put out a fire. We all know about the pressures on all of us today and just when we clear away some time, something else grabs a hold of it, and we never seem to get it together or get to what really matters. It’s frustrating for sure and depressing at times.
We constantly juggle demands – work, home, kids, spouse, when something has to give it is usually us – our own needs and wants – causing frustration, stress, and strain.
I know because I’ve been there. And it doesn’t have to be that way!
The key is to learn to balance it all.
The first place to start is with you, and making You your top priority, (thus the title of the book). Choose priorities so you can feel you’re doing a pretty good job at most things, ideally those that are most important to you.
* Value your own growth, development and well being.
* A support system is critical for us and our family, that feeling of ‘we are not alone’
* If we feel loved, connected and supported so will our family.
* Helping ourselves does help our kids and our families.
We all have so much to give and to share. Doing what we love every day, even if only for a part of the day, is so essential for our well being, the well being of our children and our families. The energy and thoughts we bring to life play such an important role in our development, our children’s development and in our relationships. I learned this to be true for all of our relationships, including those with people we work with.
I began to ask, wouldn’t it be great to help parents to support and advocate for their teens? If parents have so little time and energy for themselves, it stands to reason that they only have so much time and energy for their children, especially teens. It is hard to be a teen today, way harder and more complicated than when I was a teen. There is so much more they have to know and do and at a young age. Then you add technology into the mix, and that makes things even more complicated, for instance, making it harder to enforce the limits we set.
The cell phone is a great example, takes the place of personal interaction and engagement. It makes us readily available and reachable at all hours and all locations. Making it harder and harder to connect with those we care about, and to form close relationships with them. It can also lead to feelings of isolation and little sense of belonging.
Disconnection often leads to emotional problems. People are overwhelmed, constantly running around, trying to get as much done in a day as possible, causing stress for ourselves and for those around us. Connection, on the other hand, creates a sense of belonging, which helps build a solid foundation for us, our children and our family.
I have some ways to help you do all of these things and to find the time for more of what matters to you. To balance all of the areas of your life, while staying connected to you family and achieving success in your business (or career).