Did you just experience a breakup? And now you want to get someone back. Getting them back can be easy but the real question is do you want them back after they dumped you?
If you’re still in love then your main goal is usually to find some way to get back an ex who has broken your heart. What is usually the case though is that most people don’t have a clue where to start and they either rush around sending expensive gifts or making a ton of phone calls – all of which only serve to push their ex further away?
“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is the attitude.”-William James
So where to start and what to do?
Your opening move to get someone back should always be to approach the mission in a calm and relaxed manner. Do nothing that is going to make you appear as desperate and needy because again, your ex will only find it a turn off.
To get yourself in a calm and rational place, you need to take some time out from the heat and drama of the breakup. Too often people don’t take this time out and instead just panic and believe they have to get someone back by going straight in hard from day one.
As you take this time, concentrate on the things that are going to make you feel good about yourself and what you need to keep your spirits up. So make sure that you’re not spending too much time on your own and that you’re instead out with friends and having some fun. Truly this is possibly the last thing you want to do, but you’d be amazed how much of a difference this one step can make to your prospects of getting back with the one you love.
For the same reason looking after your body is key. When you take the time to do some regular exercise and eat well, you begin to feel focused, less confused and defeatist about what you’re going through. You don’t have to join a gym if that’s not your thing. You simply need to find what works for you and stick to it. It could be as simple as a regular walk or joining a sports team or simply a regular kick around with the kids.
Eating well is also part of this. Don’t fall into the obvious trap of over indulging where food and drink are concerned. It might make you feel consoled initially but eventually, it will ruin any chance you might have to get someone back. So eat well and drink in moderation.
Connect all of these points and you have the beginnings of proven plan to begin the job to get someone back.