After finding out your husband has been cheating on you what do you do next? If you have decided that you want to save your relationship, regardless of the pain you feel, you need a guideline to follow to get you from point A to point B. Below are three tips to get you started.
1. You must decide how much information or details you would like to hear about your husband’s infidelity. Many women can take the pain of hearing all the details and can use this as a healing mechanism. But some woman cannot handle it. You must decide what you are ready for and proceed from there.
Many women have a mental list of things they wish to know about. You may have had a feeling something was not right, but now you can ask him the questions to verify your premonitions. Knowing you where right will help you connect the dots and this can help you heal.
You were the one that has been hurt by your husband’s relationship, so opening up the conversation between the two of you, with him answering your questions, would be a great start.
2. Make a list of questions you want to ask. Keep the list short; you do not want to go on forever with the questioning at one sitting. Now hold on to it for a few days and think over the questions you have listed. Are these truly the questions you need answered to help you move forward?
Remember when you get the answers you may not like what you hear. You are going to have images of your husband with this other woman haunting you so be prepared for that. The purpose of your getting your questions answered is to help in the healing process for both you and your husband so hang in there.
3. Don’t surprise your husband with the questions; give him a heads up so he can be mentally prepared. Set the guidelines that will work for you. You can tell him to give answers only with no excuses or leave out or include all the intimate details. These criteria are up to you and how you think you can handle it.
These three tips can get you started towards healing and repairing your relationship, as long as you and your husband are willing to work at it. It will take both of your efforts; it’s not a one person deal.