Dealing with a cheating husband for most women is an exercise in self-doubt. You spend most of your time wondering how do I make my cheating husband stop? Unfortunately, this leaves little time left over for worrying about why he is cheating in the first place.
It’s very easy to give advice to other women, family, and friends in this predicament. It’s another thing alt when it’s your man that is stepping out on you. Then the rules change and so does your attitude.
You’ve probably given the advice to other women that a cheating husband should have dropped like a hot potato. That is not always the best course though.
You love your husband. You have a long history with your husband. You know, better than anyone else, that one bad, heart-wrenching act does not erase that history or change how you feel about him. So your best option is to figure out how to make him stop cheating. That is probably a little easier said than done.
Instead of trying to figure out how to make my cheating husband stop, it’s time to invest a little time, care, and attention to getting to the bottom of his cheating and figuring out how you can remove his temptation to cheat in the first place.
Is Your Marriage Living up to his Expectations?
No matter how unrealistic they may be, men go into marriage with a few expectations of their own. These expectations are often forgotten, overlooked, or completely ignored during the planning for the wedding and even the first years of marriage.
It’s not anyone’s fault. It’s just the way it is. Girls’ spend most of their lives planning the weddings of their dreams. Men are listed as looking for any number of reasons to avoid marriage and commitments.
We often forget that these stereotypes are not always true and that he may have a few ideas of his own for what his marriage was going to be. How is your marriage measuring up?
Setting the Record Straight on Expectations
Help him see which expectations are realistic and which expectations are fantasies born of childhood television shows of picture perfect families. In other words, meet the expectations you can meet and work out a compromise together for those you can not.
Find out what you can do that will not only meet his needs but also a few of his extra special wants. Remember that the two of you really do love one another. It just so happens that it takes two people working together to make or break a marriage.