We’d had problems for years, on both our ends. The final straw was opening up our marriage in year 6, on her suggestion.
Despite sitting down for hours and discussing rules, she slept with one of her friends less than 24 hours later. While allowed, it surprised me how fast it happened.
Anyway, she kept sleeping with this guy for months, and it took months for me to find a girl that was okay with our relationship (Call her R).
R and I went on several dates, got along pretty well, but my wife was getting jealous. The night R and I were going to finally sleep together wife got enraged and ‘forbid’ me to, because “she wasn’t ready for that step yet.”
I gritted my teeth and bared it, despite her still sleeping with her friend and it causing me a lot of stress. In my mind, once things had ‘been balanced’ we would be in a better place.
The final straw came the night R and I were texting and R sent me a topless pic. I casually mentioned it to the wife.
The resulting argument was cataclysmic. She went off on R, called her a bunch of names, forbid me from ever SPEAKING to her again (keep in mind, still haven’t actually DONE anything with R), and also refused to alter her current friends with benefits situation AT ALL.
This crossed (in my mind at least) from open marriage to “I’m cheating and you just have to deal with it.”
I clearly remember walking into the bathroom during this argument and staring at myself in the mirror and thinking “I can’t be a man that is okay with this. I can’t live this life.”
I left the next morning, after sleeping on it, her not budging on the whole thing, and my opinion not changing either. Funny thing…she didn’t want me to go and actually begged me to stay, but STILL wasn’t willing to give up her friend. [KMApok]
12. The Guy Friend
She made someone else more important than me in our relationship. Despite being told by me, her family, my family and a relationship counselor she thought she was doing the right thing and that I would just hang around while she had her fun.
The night I told her it was over she had plenty of reasons why she was acting the way she was and why she deserved to keep him as a friend. This is nearly 2 years ago now. The other guy lasted a couple of months after we split. She is now trying to justify herself by jumping from bed to bed with whoever she can. [daddy_oz]
13. Constant Physical Abuse
When his abuse began affecting the way my son viewed abuse. After my ex punched me in the face, my son said, “well, it’s not like he ever beat the crap out of you.” So done. [marybowman]
14. When You Turn Into a Religious Nut
She wasnt religious when we met, 10 years later she told me I was going to hell for believing in dinosaurs. [cdc194]
15. Hypocrisy Coupled With Pure Meanness
My wife put on 170 lbs over 10 years. I never said anything and supported her attempts at weight loss.
One day I was trying on an old Steelers jersey that didn’t fit, because I had gained 15 lbs in 10 years. I said, “Well, i guess it’s time to buy a bigger jersey.” her response:
“We’re not blowing money on a stupid jersey. You’ll just have to lose weight.”