Extreme Helicopter Parenting Stories

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Helicopter parents are so called because they can’t stop hovering around their children controlling each action of their offsprings and sometimes even trying to influence the environment. Needless to say, this is not healthy, no matter how noble the parents’ intentions may be. Redditors list out the most extreme examples of helicopter parenting they have witnessed.

1. A Mother’s Job Never Ends

More extreme in the duration than the act itself: my 71-year-old grandmother still phones my 51-year-old mother three times a day demanding to know where she is and what she’s doing. [TheLittleVintage]

2. The Mum Who Supervised Parties

I had a friend in high school whose mom was terrible. Every time there was a party (and, mind you, most of my friends were Mormon so they were supervised, appropriate parties) she would come just to make sure her daughter wasn’t getting into trouble. She wouldn’t let her watch PG-13 movies (even at 17), had a strict curfew, and became a constant and judgemental fixture at every social event. One time she called me a slut because she saw me kiss a boy at a school dance (she wasn’t chaperoning, she was just there to watch her daughter). The best story though was one time my friends and I went to my house to watch a scary movie. Sheltered friend comes. Helicopter mom shows up. My dear mother distracted her in the kitchen so my friend could have a little peace and just be a teenager. My mom later said she had no idea what to talk to her about so they talked about cats for 2 hours. My mom is a saint. [tonysbeard]

3. The Mum Who Demands Her Child Be Given the Answer

I worked at a science museum that had hands on for kids.

The aim of the game was for the child to solve a problem by themselves. Like “can you get x to do y”, they make something, test it, and figure out how to make it better.

One day a woman comes in, practically dragging her five-year-old son. She sits him down beside me and starts poking me on the shoulder and I’m talking to another family.

“Tell my son what to do,” she says, standing over him. I tell the family to hold on a sec, as I explain the challenge to the newcomer. The whole point is to work autonomously, so it was alright, and I was used to working with a few rude/pushy parents so I wasn’t surprised. I tell the kid the prompt, tell him he had a wide range of materials…

But no. The woman wants me to tell him every step of the process. “Tell him the answer! Tell him the answer!” she says repeatedly, grabbing his hands to make him fold paper, or reaching for my own.

I start getting mad. “Ma’am, the goal here is to learn the scientific method. Make a hypothesis, test it, make conclusions and try again.”

“But you already KNOW the answer,” she says, “tell my son! Or I’m calling your manager!”

I don’t even have a manager. In the mean time, the poor kid is looking so embarrassed. Ever time he tries to start something for himself, his mom reaches for his hands and tells him to wait for me to tell him what to do. The woman was so afraid of him failing when the whole point was to learn from one’s mistakes. I’m so worried about how he’ll deal with mistakes growing up, with her around. [Nosynonymforsynonym]

4. The Account-Hacking Parents

A guy at my high school last year wrote some college application essays, and after his parents read them they kicked him out of his own account, changed the password, and rewrote them entirely. [ZacheyBYT]

5. The Shadowing Mother

I used to teach/lecture at a university. I had one poor homeschooled student who’s mother insisted on attending the university with him. She enrolled in the same course and used to follow him around to observe his social interactions, and dictate to him who he should be friends with etc. He had limited social skills as it was, and this made it much much worse. In the end I put them in different lecture streams so that they had to attend separate lectures and labs. She spat the dummy and took me before the Dean to change them into the lecture streams, but the Dean was pretty happy with what I had done. A few weeks later the student came and thanked me personally. [Hypogriff]

6. The Overdependent Woman

Anesthesiologist here, I was in preop interviewing a 26 year old woman who’s mom answered all of her questions. The patient was allergic to 54 drugs with side effects ranging from “makes me yell” to “the pill is blue and She doesn’t like blue”. Patient was 500lbs and her mom wiped her a** for her still. Not a joke. [Hypogriff]

7. The Parents Who Were Afraid of James Bond

When I was 15 the parents of a kid in my school year drove 7 hours to save their pride and joy from watching Casino Royale on the coach’s on-board DVD player driving back from a school trip. The best part about it is that he must have asked our teacher what the film was in advance and then told his mum. [rdc20]

8. No Child of Mine Will be Independent!

An acquaintance of mine getting yelled at by her parents when she decided to get an apartment for herself. She was 30 at the time. [bicyclemom]

9. The Mums Who Write Essays for Their Kids

I worked front desk of a hotel in a Big10 college town and the moms in the lobby were discussing the college entrance essays they wrote for their kids to guarantee they’d get into the school. [stella_the_diver]

10. The Interview Hijacker

I was a manager of a bagel store. Had an interview with a kid, I think he was about 16.

His dad came to the interview, and basically answered every single question I asked the kid.

At the end of the interview I turned to the dad and said “You’re hired.” The look on his face was priceless. The kid laughed his a** off. [xBlackBartx]