You’re wondering how to save a relationship after cheating. It’s happened to you. Your relationship has been impacted by infidelity. Whether you’re the person who strayed or you’re the person left reeling after discovering your partner was unfaithful, there’s an immense amount of pain to deal with. There are two very distinct types of couples that come through an affair. One is the couple whose connection was already hanging by a delicate thread. They are the ones who end up allowing the affair to define them and they quickly decide that their relationship is over. The other type of couple sees the affair as a wakeup call. They realize that it’s a chance for them to rebuild together the lost bond of trust. If you and your partner have decided to try and save your relationship, there are a few things you can do to make that journey a little easier.
When you set out to save a relationship after cheating you have to do it with an agreement that nothing is off limits. The person who was cheated on is going to have questions, many questions about the affair. The person who was unfaithful has to answer those questions in the most compassionate way they can. Unless they do so, their partner is going to be left wondering about what really happened and an active imagination isn’t going to help heal the divide. It’s a great idea to have an agreement about when those questions can be asked as well as a specific amount of time that can be devoted to discussing the affair each day. If you don’t have some boundaries in place, questions may pop up at inopportune times or a conversation about it can drag on for hours and hours leaving both partners emotionally spent.
Rebuilding trust is critical and without it, the relationship can’t survive. Each couple has to find their own way with this but it’s important to note that in each case, the person who did the cheating is going to have to become more open and accessible. It goes without saying that the adulterous affair has to stop and all contact with the person you or your partner cheated with has to stop. You can’t heal your own relationship if the third party is still in the picture. This may mean that there will be a change in employment or you may have to move to another place. This is too important to ignore and every measure must be taken for the person who cheated to break free of their lover.
Remember that healing after infidelity can’t happen overnight. It’s a process and that means you’re going to have good days and bad days. If you work together and stay committed to making your relationship stronger than ever, nothing can stop you two from having the deeply connected bond you’ve always wanted.