Is It Hard To Attract Women When You Aren’t Good Looking?

It seems the biggest concern my students deal with is their presumption of being too ugly to attract women.

Their insecurity comes from their various aspects and natures, such as some of them think they may be too:

They could be too old.

They could be too fat.

Some think they’re too short.

Some think they’re too ugly.

Because of this, these men feel they are helpless when it comes to getting the kind of woman they desire.

This simply is not the truth.

We should take just a moment to drive out these few myths of attraction, since they do hold many men back from having a successful love life.

Myth #1 – Women are only attracted to good looking men.

Look around this world and notice the different types of men, who date beautiful women, you will find this myth is not true.

Of course it is essential to look good, however, it you do not have to be good looking.

What’s the difference?

Well, you can’t help if you’re good looking or not. But you have COMPLETE control over how you present yourself. You control the type of clothes you wear, how you groom yourself, how you wear your hair, how you smell, etc.

Presentations of these types of features play a role in looking good.

Even the most average looking guy can be attractive when he takes control of his appearance.

Myth #2 – Women Think Like Men Do

Naturally, you and I think that everyone else sees the same things the same way in which we see others.

For instance – If you’ve ever had a pimple on your forehead that felt so big, it was like everyone could see it. But the pimple was under the skin, and in reality, no one but you could tell it was there.

You can see it plainly, while others may not notice it at all.

Keep in mind that this method is generally in use when it comes to assessing any individual. Based on her looks you judge a woman, while sizing the woman up visually and then you decide if you think she is attractive, right.

You naturally assume that women size you up in the same manner.

This is incorrect.

Women have different criteria for determining attraction than men do. That’s not to say they don’t care if a man is attractive or not. But they don’t place as much importance on physical characteristics as us guys do.

Women find attraction by how a man makes them feel, more so than how he may physically appear. This explains their attraction to social status and confidence. Men who make them laugh, are good at what they do attract women. Physical looks has very little to do with whether a woman is attracted to a man.

Myth #3 – Women Notice A Man’s Uncertainty And Insecurity

Keep in mind that we know our own self, better than anyone ever will. We see all our flaws, such as our large noses and ears, a weak chin or receding hairline.

We notice these small flaws, no matter what they may be.

Since we see it very plainly, we merely assume everyone else can too. Nevertheless, many individuals are not observant at all, unless they search for and issue to analyze about you. If you have insecurities, as we all do most likely they wont even care, since we all focus so highly of our own.

Many men may call attention to their shortcomings while trying to dismiss and diffuse the things that make them feel insecure. Consequently, all this type of behavior does is managing to call the attention of the woman to the area of insecurity; otherwise, she may not even notice it.

Besides, insecurity is very unattractive. Think about it.

It’s important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 – Good Looking Men Have It Made

Get a grip guys, this is the biggest myth of them all. Women do not automatically flock to a good looking man.

Physical attractiveness may initially assist, however ultimately, good looking men suffer from the same types of problems as other men, while managing their own types of struggles with women they find attractive.

Attraction is the magnification of the emotional connection a woman feels while in your presence, you can build this connection in such a manner that the woman only feels this way when she is with you. Consequently, she will want to have you around her.

When a man matches the physical type of man, a woman prefers she naturally gravitates towards him, simply because those features appeal to her. Those feelings go away if she considers the man to be incompatible, a jerk or a bore.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn’t initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure – she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

Others want to be around you when you make them feel good; this is one of the basics of attraction.

You don’t have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

This equation has a second factor and that is of sexual attraction.

Sexual attraction is not only making a woman feel good by being around you, but arousing their passion as well.

This is when seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of sexual attraction, even if you don’t look like Brad Pitt, she’s going to begin to see you in a whole new light – despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

Source by Joseph Matthews