It is true that married life is full of hard things. A lot of problems will come and go. The fact that whether the marriage can be saved or not depends on the how much the couples can be prepared for this. However, the pity fact shows that there are great numbers of couples who fail in maintaining the marriage. The most common factor is that there is only one of the couples, either the husband or the wife, who is still concerned with the marriage. Such thing will make the spouse feel desperate. It is because there is no partner for him or her in handling the problems. As the result is that the spouse is desperate to struggle in overcoming the problems and the marriage will be ended in divorce. Yep, it is a pity to know that a married life that has been built for years must be ended in this way. However, actually, the spouse must not be desperate. The fact that there is still a person who concerns about this matter is more than enough to give reason to keep struggling to be freed from the problems.
Indeed, in saving the marriage alone is a hard thing. However, it is very possible to do if you know how to do it. You must believe that you can make a significant effect on this matter although you are alone. You must trust yourself that you have the competence to do it. Well, to do it, you need to make change by yourself. Your initiative plays an important role here. Who knows that after some efforts that you do on your own, your spouse will be convinced to take part in this matter. The most important thing in doing this is that you need to abandon your pride. The pride and prestige are the things which should be thrown away because it will destroy the steps in saving the marriage when you are alone. Whenever you have been able to neglect your pride, it is the time to see the problems by using the point of view of your spouse. Such thing will help you in determining the reason why your spouse does not take action in solving this problem. You might think that the problem is tiny. However, tiny is very relative. It might be huge for your spouse. Therefore, you need to do this. Communication is also very essential for this matter. You must not think that you have suffered a greater impact from the problem and therefore, you will think that it is unfair. This problem definitely affects both of you. Therefore, it is very wrong if you think that you are the only victim.
Saving marriage is a very hard thing. Moreover, whenever you do it by your own self. However, you need to believe that all things can be better. All you need to do is to act. There is no need to whine because of the problems. The problems are there to be solved instead of making the problems as the reason to cry over. At first without waiting for your spouse to act. By acting first, you will give the impression that you really want to save the marriage and you love your spouse very much. Hopefully, your spouse will be moved by your act and then take part in saving the marriage too.